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Food for thought

“Under commit and over provide”

A very key of life, love and the pursuit of sanity. Something so simple yet so profound. So now that we’ve looked at the food for thought, let’s dig in!

The first part, under commit, is only meant in a reference to what you say you’re gonna do! Don’t spend too much time giving speeches about doing…just do it! Plus when you say you’re gonna do something do more! I know there is a huge amount of unappreciative people in the world, but just remind yourself they have to answer in the end for what they’ve done. For the few, genuine people left, your actions and work ethics will speak scores more than any fancy speech. I will go deeper but that’s it for now!


This is really part 1 of a 2 piece for ya! (Please Note that this is a generalization, so I might be speaking to/about you in parts of this, but if something is off, like a time table, then don’t use it to discredit the entire post…have a open mind/heart…thanks)

Really you’re either a good guy or not. No matter how much you hold back, or try to ignore it, you just can’t deny who you really are. To almost every guy that goes “Oh I’m a good guy” do you really know what that means?

It means that you erase all the crap from the past (or erase as much as she’ll let go, then you start to pry the rest) You’re putting in husband work, and for what?

  • If you’re in a relationship, you will be put down 3 times quicker than you normally would.
  • Also a increase of sensitivity, and more arguments!
  • If you’re a friend, you will build her up to where she should be, minus the negative energy and people surrounding her.

Now before you all go running off with your capes on, being the good guy has a lot of downsides and dangers. You’ll go through a lot of crap….I know, before you say “We will go through crap regardless of the path we choose” the answer is NO! You will be on a very thin rope, but you’ll get to know a beautiful person. You’re basically making a butterfly. (If you have no idea of the entire process, feel free to google or wikipedia now.)

The real problem, is that usually when that butterfly flies away, they don’t look back. That’s where I’m at, and I’ve become jaded by it, but I can’t let someone suffer if I can, it is God’s work to help those who are hurt, but it sucks because they turn their backs on you after they can stand, which will lead to some ugly things on your part. But you’ll  just have to suck up the fact that this person once looked to you for  mental and emotional support acts like they are too busy for you.

It brings me to a scene from Batman: The Dark Knight; the interrogation scene with Batman and the joker, when the joker tells batman that he’s not one of “them” (meaning society) and he’s more like him. This is true in this way, because you’re doing almost the same thing their ex(‘s) did, (get close, build her up emotionally….) but instead of abusing what you were given, you actually kept things moving, and just like the joker said about being cast out when they don’t need you, that happens. Though, its not 100% of the time (ALL women aren’t that selfish….hopefully) but this is what might happen after you put on that cape, and start fighting those demons.

I, by no means, am trying to discourage being a good guy, all I’m saying is, reflect on this, and the next time you help her through her troubled times, and wipe the tears away, if she pushes you to the side, don’t undo the good you just did. I know its upsetting, but you did use YOUR time, and I don’t know about you, but anything I put my time and energy into, I want to be able to look at and say I did a good job, and it just so happens that good job is smiling better than ever, then so be it.

Live, Love and be happy



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Here is the hold up from new material

Countdown until?

Less than 100 days before Christmas, less than 100 days until 2009, how many days till you follow your heart?

Parents Dating….

The percentage of us who grew up with a single mother or father or parent-figure, you ever sat and thought that they need love too?A parents love is strong, but the love from another is stronger on certain fronts.

Now, for that percentage I’m talking too, there are some of us who witnessed our parents dating and some didn’t. To the ones who didn’t, its crazy that they’d put their child before them on EVERY front, now before you jump down my throat, I mean, its a gift and a curse. Not only do you have to raise your child (or children) ALONE, but you go through all the moments ALONE, cause friends n family can only get so close. Not to mention if your partner and child don’t get along, that is chaos within itself. To be trapped between your lover and your child, I think its wrong for a parent to kick a child out because they don’t get long with their boyfriend/girlfriend, but what about the selfish kids who want their biological parent back, and not to mention if your ex is toying with their mind blaming it on you that you two are not together. Such thin ice, that if you have a child or if you want someone with a child you have to go over..good luck with that..and good luck in life!

Why so serious???

Why so serious? A lit of things that we may value, or that may piss us off we don’t fully communicate. This is due to our environment, friends and family. Although this starting off isn’t a bad thing, it is something to remember in a relationship, because you’re partner might make an honest mistake and you’re going off on him/her when all you had to do is let them know from jump about you!!

That isn’t as bad as it seems and / or sounds. Think about it, with your doctor, would you want a doctor who is willing to give you their 100% on everything, or just come to you when they can give you a good 20 or 30 percent when its convenient for them?

NO! Or well I hope not, but as long as you have your partner’s heart in mind, when you act/speak/ whatever, then all should be well. Also, that’s why you should COMMUNICATE with your partner, that makes loving them a lot easier on your part….PEACE